My girlfriend and I have been together for a while. She's always had high expectations of me, but now they're getting out of control. I don't know what to do!
You may have different backgrounds.
Your girlfriend and you might have different backgrounds, which could lead to a variety of problems. You may not have the same views on relationships or the way someone should treat you. There could be outside sources (like family) that are causing problems for your relationship.
It's just a relationship. It's not going to last forever, and if it does, then that is great! Don't let one problem get in between everything else that is good about being together with her/him!
You May Not Share The Same Perspective On Some Things
That's okay! It's normal to have differences of opinion, and it's important that you and your girlfriend can openly discuss those differences without getting frustrated or angry. Many people are not aware of how much their perspective on things can differ from that of their partner. This can be especially difficult for women, who tend to be more emotional, and men, who tend to be more logical.
It is important to remember that you are both right, but in different ways. Be open to hearing what your partner has to say about things, even if it doesn't make sense to you at first glance.
You may also have different views on what a “relationship” is and how it should be handled. This could mean that you have different expectations of what your girlfriend should do for you in order to prove her love or that she expects more from you than she does from herself.
There May Be Outside Sources
If this is true, ask yourself: Are my beliefs about relationships based on external sources? Do I feel pressured by society or by friends who want me to conform? If so, then there are several things we need to explore further before continuing forward with our current understanding of relationships (and ourselves).
For example, she could be talking to her friends and family about you and saying that you don’t do enough for her. She may also be comparing your relationship with other couples who have similar age gaps or life stages.
She Expects A Lot And Wants You To Do Better
Your girlfriend is probably expecting a lot because she wants you to be better and she's just trying to make you a better person. Maybe she wants to be with someone who can be her best friend. That's not a bad thing, trust me. It means that she values your friendship and wants to see you succeed in life. It also means that she cares about your emotional well-being and wants to protect you from the things that might hurt it.
If you've found yourself in this situation, it's important to remember that all relationships are different. What worked for your ex may not work for her, and vice versa. You'll need to really understand who she is as a person before you can begin to understand what she expects from you.